Regardless of the situation, if he displays these characteristics, he is not going to stick around for long and he certainly won’t make you happy.
1. He disappears. One of the huge red flags that a guy is afraid of commitment is inconsistency. He is only available when it is convenient for him. He has no problem cancelling plans last minute or being out of touch for long periods of time. If he wanted to be with you, he would be with you. He would make the time and he would show up. Why are you waiting around for him? RUN.
2. He never puts you first. There are a few common excuses that a man will use for disappearing and they all mean one thing– you are not his top priority. Obviously stuff happens, and sometimes plans have to be cancelled at the last minute. However, if he puts his friends or his job before you more often than not, if he repeatedly uses them as an excuse for not seeing you, then chances are he is not in it for the long haul. If a man really cares about you, he will show it. He will go out of his way to do nice things for you and make you happy. He will ditch his boys because he would rather hang out with you. If he doesn’t put your wants and needs before his in the beginning he certainly won’t in the future, so why are you wasting your time? RUN.
3. His contact list contains more ex girlfriends than friends. This guy’s past is littered with brief relationships. He is good at making a woman feel special and creating intense attraction, but once he knows he has her, he moves on. He loves the chase, but once he has trapped his target, he gets bored. Want to drive a serial dater crazy? Next time he contacts you after disappearing for a period of time, tell him you are not interested. Tell him you are seeing someone else and no longer have any feelings for him. The second he realizes that you won’t be there on stand-by, he will most likely do one of two things: start the chase again or get angry. He might become more attentive than ever, be extremely charming and romantic, and try to convince you that he really does have feelings for you. If you have not experienced this before, be warned. Chances are, he will come on strong and fast, and if you fall for it, he will disappear again. On the other hand, if you tell him you are no longer available or interested in dealing with his games, he might lash out. Why are you waiting around hoping he will pick you? RUN.
4. He is never at fault. Men with commitment issues often handle confrontation. He will make the woman feel like there is something wrong with her. He will cast doubt in the woman’s mind because once that feeling of not being good enough is there, he knows that only he can remove it. He gets his kicks from knowing that you want and need him. Why are you allowing him to make you feel like there is something wrong with you? RUN.
5. He doesn’t show you off.
If a guy is really into you, he will want to show you off to his friends. He will want everyone to
know that he was lucky enough to get you. He will be ready to include you in all aspects of his
life. If a guy won’t introduce you to his friends and family, if he won’t call you his girlfriend after a
month or more of dating, if he isn’t proud to have you on his arm, why are you still seeing him? RUN. So again, why do you still want this guy? Like I said, many women will say that their situation is different, that others just don’t
understand… Understand this: He will not change. No matter how much you hope and wish, or even if he claims he will be different, his track record says it all and it is highly probable that you will not be the girl to tame him. Think hard about his actions – they speak louder than his words – and don’t make excuses for him. You asked how to make him love you and want you. The answer is simple: You can’t. RUN! Run while you can.